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GROWING YOUR SELF-CONFIDENCE – 7 KEYS FOR  WOMEN IN BUSINESS

What is confidence?
One dictionary definition is: “a feeling or belief that you can do something well or succeed at something”.

Self-confidence seems like one of those things you either were born with or not.   That is mostly NOT true–great  news for all of us, and especially for women in any kind of business. Think of how confident you were when you took your very first step as a toddler: not very.   Yet, you stopped wobbling a long time ago. Now, do you assume you can walk or do you doubt each step?   No, you learned to be confident in your ability to walk.   You LEARNED by doing, by trying, wobbling, falling down and getting up again.

Lack of confidence makes us wobble in business and feel unsure of ourselves.   It also leads to the two P’s: Procrastination and Perfectionism.
“No, I can’t get that program out yet…I don’t have enough to offer.   I need more training, or better copy, or a prettier website.”   What’s your version of this? More importantly, when will you be ready, your offer good enough, your business polished enough?

Perfectionism rears its ugly head by insisting we need to get it right and ‘do the job’ ten times better than anyone else, just to feel adequate.     When your self-esteem depends on getting things right or being perfect, you will overwork—and probably undercharge as well.

Procrastination chimes in when it comes to taking a risk, like  putting your new program, product or marketing out there.   Lack of confidence makes you hesitate to take risks because “what if I’m wrong?”.   If, like most women, you were trained to be good, not make waves, and get the right answer in school–your self-esteem depends on getting things right, NOT on the number of chances you take!

The most successful entrepreneurs have confidence—not necessarily in their particular abilities, though of course that’s helpful—but in their ability to take risks and recover from challenges and set backs.   They are resilient and adaptable.   This is actually quite different from the kind of cocky self-esteem or bravado that we might associate with self-confidence.   I’ll tell you more about that later as it’s one of the 7 Keys to Self-Confidence in this current series of
blog posts.

Contrast that kind of hesitancy with how men are taught and raised….I still remember one of my coaches, Michael Port, saying “Ready,fire, aim!”.   I almost laughed because that was SO far from the way I and many women, operate.     Even the language was strange to me–shooting my clients is the last thing I ever want to do.   I realized Michael didn’t’ mean that literally, he was simply using the common language of business which was developed by men and is still the dominant mindset in the business world.   That aggressive, hunt-em-down language is a huge turn-off for me, and the women and men I serve, and in that moment I promised myself I’d  find and use new heart-based metaphors and language for business.

The main point he was making, which most women need to take to heart more, was “don’t wait to be perfect, get it out there, and then tweak it later. Get into action..!”

Where is your lack of confidence, perfectionism or procrastination holding YOU back from  promoting your business or taking inspired action?

Jul
09

Confessions of a Slow Adapter

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I’ve been sharing with you how our survival programming causes us to resist change.   Down to our very cells, we are oriented to keeping things the same.    This has worked very well to keep humans alive and to continue the species.

But today’s conditions are radically different than what our bodies were designed for.   In business, those who refuse to grow and adapt to new technologies and to the fast pace of change get left behind. A good friend of mine, a successful veterinarian who has done business online since the early days of the internet, told me he’d ignored social media for about two years.   Traffic to his site started slowing down until he realized what was happening.

I confess I’ve resisted social media and adapting new technologies. I didn’t get what the ‘big deal’ was about social media and haven’t wanted to have to change what I’m doing with technology and marketing.   My passion is serving my clients, empowering and inspiring them, and providing great learning programs.   The joy is in that, not in marketing or in mastering new technology!   Like most solopreneurs, I wasn’t looking for a business, I was looking for a way to bring my work into the world, which asks me to set up and run my practice as a business.   I call it the accidental entrepreneur syndrome.

I have a colleague in Santa Fe, prosperity coach Joan Sotkin, who has been an early adapter of social media.   Her enthusiasm has inspired me, especially her statement that “Social media has opened the whole world to me”.  So, slowly, reluctantly, I’m getting with ‘the program.   And trusting that there is a place in the world for turtles like me, or why would there be any of us? Are you a turtle too? f you are a slow adapter, know that you are not alone.    We can support each other and ourselves in moving forward at the pace that feels natural to us.

Meantime, my attitude is changing.   I am seeing the amazing connections and opportunities this new world opens up, in terms of meeting interesting people, creating joint ventures, expanding my world, and reaching more people.     I commit to finding what works for me, and doing it strategically and consistently.    There, I’ve gone public!

What about you, what new adaptation are you willing to commit to?As I go deeper into blogging and learn more about social media, my attitude is changing.   I don’t necessarily want to spend as much time on the computer as I am, but I see now the amazing connections and opportunities that this new world opens up, in terms of meeting interesting people,   creating joint ventures, and reaching the world.   It’s actually getting to be (dare I say) fun !