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Jul
27

Why is my income not growing?

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That reason is NOT what you think–it’s not “the economy” or your level of education. The real reason why money is the way it is in your life is your money blueprint. Your money blueprint is made up of the automatic or conditioned responses that come up when you are thinking about money, or dealing with it. It also includes thoughts, beliefs and emotions around money, wealth, success, self-worth and receiving good things.

Most of this programming is fear based and negative. It comes from our primary drive to survive, to stay alive. This programming keeps us focused on avoiding danger. It doesn’t support us in many of the skills we need to build a business or grow our money, because it stops us from taking any risks AND often leads to money avoidance—not looking at anything that could be scary or unfamiliar, including looking honestly at our finances. The fear programming can also create a stress response-and we go into fight, flight or freeze when anything seems to go wrong.

The solution is to bring the programming into awareness—shining the light on it. Then we clear these old limiting programs and create new programming that makes you feel powerful and helps you stay in positive action. Sounds good right? How do we get started?

1. Shine a light into the subconscious—your critical first step. As a Tapping into Wealth coach I have some very specific processes for doing this. Working on your own, start by looking at your money situation. Look at your income—write it down on a piece of paper. Is it enough? If not..

What beliefs or emotions would lead to this kind of financial situation?
Example: You have a really great business idea, but you keep attracting business partners or employees who don’t help, or who drain you. Some possible beliefs could be “I can’t trust anyone” or “I have to do it all myself” or “I am not supported”

2. This can be tricky to find since it’s buried in the subconscious. That’s where a coach really comes in handy!

3. If your pattern is one step forward and two steps back, or it feels like there is an invisible limit on your success and income, look for inner conflicts that need to be eliminated.

Sometimes our desires conflict with our subconscious, survival programming. Say you set a goal to double your income, but your subconscious belief is “If I make that much money my family or friends will have a problem. They’ll be jealous, threatened, critical, or want my money”. When you have a conflict like this, guess who wins? Your subconscious fears will, almost always.

However you do it, it’s critical to shine the light, and replace the old subconscious programming that created your current finances. Otherwise it’ll be really really hard to change your money situation, since it’s the subconscious that is running the show.

Please continue to read this ongoing blog series to learn more and start changing your money blueprint. The next post focuses on the first layer of the money blueprint—the verbal programming you received around money, wealth and success. Have fun exploring your blueprint!

Make sure to join me for Tapped into Wealth Tuesdays. (Next one is July 28 and then we resume on 8/11).
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Jul
12

Perfection’s Hidden Cost

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Hidden Costs of Perfectionism

What happens when you are trying to get things perfect? What happens when you put off an important decision because you need to be sure it’s the right one?

I’ve been blogging about the Hidden Gifts of perfectionism and today I want to talk about the hidden costs. This “hidden” but truly expensive problem bugs me so much (and has haunted me personally) which is why I’m offering the 30 Days to Retrain Your Brain for Success challenge, which begins on Thursday the 16th.

There are both time and dollar costs, besides the unnecessary stress of extra work, trying to attain perfection or get it “just right”. You also undermine your own self-confidence because you are focused on what needs improvement, NOT on what’s already good, so you are in fault-finding mode. You don’t get to feel good about what you’re doing.

Endless tweaking or second guessing yourself can easily turn into procrastination. You can measure the cost of procrastination not only in terms of time but also money. When you keep rewriting or redesigning your program, or holding off on a key decision trying to “get it right”–these are all a way of saying “WAIT” to the Universe.

Guess what else “waits” on you? Your income! These patterns seriously slow down your incoming cash flow.

The truth is that “perfect” is an unattainable goal. You can perfect things and tweak them indefinitely. You can stay in indecision or procrastinate on hitting the send button, for a long time, weeks, months, even years. The cost is your time, but also lost income and growth opportunities.

The solution is simple and I call it a no-brainer (pun intended)–the Retrain Your Brain for Success 30 Day Challenge.

Join me on Thursday 7/16 AT 7:30 pm Eastern. We’ll be creating a new empowering set of habits called Motivation by Celebration…with support from me and an amazing group of like minded people. Registration information below.

Not quite sure? Test-drive the program with this EFT Meridian tapping session for Releasing Perfectionism. I give instructions so you can tap along with me! Listen here: http://bit.ly/1Nw0nt3

Ready to Retrain? Let’s get it started in here!

Give your Inner Critic a summer vacation and give yourself the gift of happy productivity! Total value is $450 and at $97 it truly is a no-brainer. \.

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Ellen Anne Shapiro

We’ve just explored in part 1 of the Hidden Gifts of Perfection, how to sift out what is good from your perfectionism—the drive for excellence—from the unwanted self-punishing aspects.  Let’s look now at a different aspect of the perfectionist vow.

When you look back at some achievement from the past,  do you say, “Yes, it went well, but truthfully, I could have done better.”  It’s true that there is always room for improvement—and  we can always strive to do better.    It’s also true that if our standard is perfection—that’s like a moving target.  How will we know if it’s perfect?

Since we are striving for an unattainable goal, we will always feel like “I’m not good enough.  I don’t deserve success—yet.”   It sounds like yet another aspect of how perfectionism can keep you running in place and getting nowhere.   When you see someone who is constantly busy, working hard yet  not making progress or getting the rewards, he or she is probably running a vow of perfectionism.

The perfectionism can also be a “front” for the fear of failure.  If you secretly fear that you aren’t good enough then you won’t risk putting your energy behind your offers, your marketing, etc.   Someone may even look capable and confident from the outside but because of their hidden fear of exposure, they don’t go all out, or they don’t try for the bigger clients and recognition.

This is closely related to a recognized syndrome called the Impostor Syndrome in psychology—where successful accomplished professionals and  experts, such as doctors and attorneys,  have been shown to have a huge fear of being revealed as not knowing their stuff, or inadequate in a major way.

What  are the gifts here?  Once we shine a light on the perfectionism, and all the ways that this lifelong vow has led us to be excellent, we can actually acknowledge how skilled and excellent we are, right now!  We acknowledge that there will always be room for improvement,  yet we can feel good enough right now, and deserving.   Once we see that we are giving our energy to an unattainable goal, we can adjust our standards so that we can strive to be  both “Awesome and human too” instead of perfect.

If this speaks to you, I’ve got some specific processes from Tapping into Wealth that  can help with this. Clearing this vow can make a HUGE difference in your success.  Come experience a private session (contact me for a Clarity Strategy Action session) or join us for the next Retrain Your Brain 30 day Challenge.

We set ourselves free, finally, when we realize that there is no one out there who can give us that ultimate stamp of approval.  (This almost always comes from having critical and hard to please parents…who, if still alive,  will not likely give us approval even now—and if they did, it still wouldn’t resolve the child part of us that feels  “I’ll never be good enough” ) Now, as adults, we can see that this is not going to happen.  In fact, craving the approval of others, or needing praise and recognition, can keep you running on a different kind of hamster wheel.

This is not to overlook our very natural and human desire to be recognized, to be noticed and appreciated. Social psychology has shown that appreciation and gratitude is the best path to strong relationships, both at work and in the rest of life.

But what happens when you’re in your own business-where there are so many tasks to be done in a day, and where most of those tasks are invisible to others?  Waiting for others to notice and approve is going to be a long wait!

Because you really are good enough.  You deserve reward and recognition, right now—even if you still want to improve.  You ARE awesome..just the way you are!

Since you are human, and all us humans do  need that approval, how about practicing the very habit we cultivate in the 30 Day Retrain Your Brain Challenge? The habit of celebrating and acknowledging yourself.   Go ahead, do it now.  And notice how it feels to do this.  Does it feels awkward or unnatural, hard to do or to remember to do, is it unfamiliar or uncomfortable?  Now that you see how important this is to staying motivated and happy, and allowing yourself to really go for it–if you’d like to get better at this, join us for the next Retrain Your Brain 30 day Challenge that starts July 16th.

And learn to finally give yourself that stamp of approval!

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