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27

Why is my income not growing?

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That reason is NOT what you think–it’s not “the economy” or your level of education. The real reason why money is the way it is in your life is your money blueprint. Your money blueprint is made up of the automatic or conditioned responses that come up when you are thinking about money, or dealing with it. It also includes thoughts, beliefs and emotions around money, wealth, success, self-worth and receiving good things.

Most of this programming is fear based and negative. It comes from our primary drive to survive, to stay alive. This programming keeps us focused on avoiding danger. It doesn’t support us in many of the skills we need to build a business or grow our money, because it stops us from taking any risks AND often leads to money avoidance—not looking at anything that could be scary or unfamiliar, including looking honestly at our finances. The fear programming can also create a stress response-and we go into fight, flight or freeze when anything seems to go wrong.

The solution is to bring the programming into awareness—shining the light on it. Then we clear these old limiting programs and create new programming that makes you feel powerful and helps you stay in positive action. Sounds good right? How do we get started?

1. Shine a light into the subconscious—your critical first step. As a Tapping into Wealth coach I have some very specific processes for doing this. Working on your own, start by looking at your money situation. Look at your income—write it down on a piece of paper. Is it enough? If not..

What beliefs or emotions would lead to this kind of financial situation?
Example: You have a really great business idea, but you keep attracting business partners or employees who don’t help, or who drain you. Some possible beliefs could be “I can’t trust anyone” or “I have to do it all myself” or “I am not supported”

2. This can be tricky to find since it’s buried in the subconscious. That’s where a coach really comes in handy!

3. If your pattern is one step forward and two steps back, or it feels like there is an invisible limit on your success and income, look for inner conflicts that need to be eliminated.

Sometimes our desires conflict with our subconscious, survival programming. Say you set a goal to double your income, but your subconscious belief is “If I make that much money my family or friends will have a problem. They’ll be jealous, threatened, critical, or want my money”. When you have a conflict like this, guess who wins? Your subconscious fears will, almost always.

However you do it, it’s critical to shine the light, and replace the old subconscious programming that created your current finances. Otherwise it’ll be really really hard to change your money situation, since it’s the subconscious that is running the show.

Please continue to read this ongoing blog series to learn more and start changing your money blueprint. The next post focuses on the first layer of the money blueprint—the verbal programming you received around money, wealth and success. Have fun exploring your blueprint!

Make sure to join me for Tapped into Wealth Tuesdays. (Next one is July 28 and then we resume on 8/11).
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Now I’ve got your attention!

Being kissed could definitely provide some motivation, but what I’m talking about here is the acronym KISS. You know it, right? It’s Keep It Simple Sweetheart.

Apply this to your business and your life, to anything you want to be successful in. The brain functions best when given small manageable tasks, or achievable goals. Assigning yourself  a 7 day to-do list, or big projects that are NOT chunked down into bite sizes, the brain gets overwhelmed and may go into overload
and shut down. You may start to feel anxious, overwhelmed or even want to avoid your work because it the brain says “It’s too much! I can’t do this.”

Turn that around and give yourself simpler, achievable goals, breaking larger tasks or projects into pieces. So you create daily, even hourly “wins” for yourself–completions all along the way.  

Remember:
ACHIEVING MANY SIMPLE GOALS TRAINS YOUR BRAIN FOR SUCCESS.

So, KISS your overwhelm goodbye and retrain yourself to get a lot more done: join us for the next Retrain Your Brain 30 day Challenge that starts July 16th.

SIGNUP BELOW AND RECEIVE MY AUDIO:
“Turn Your To-Do! List into a Ta-Da! List”
(Ta-Da! Is like the magician pulling the rabbit out of the hat!) .
See You On The Other Side

We’ve just explored in part 1 of the Hidden Gifts of Perfection, how to sift out what is good from your perfectionism—the drive for excellence—from the unwanted self-punishing aspects.  Let’s look now at a different aspect of the perfectionist vow.

When you look back at some achievement from the past,  do you say, “Yes, it went well, but truthfully, I could have done better.”  It’s true that there is always room for improvement—and  we can always strive to do better.    It’s also true that if our standard is perfection—that’s like a moving target.  How will we know if it’s perfect?

Since we are striving for an unattainable goal, we will always feel like “I’m not good enough.  I don’t deserve success—yet.”   It sounds like yet another aspect of how perfectionism can keep you running in place and getting nowhere.   When you see someone who is constantly busy, working hard yet  not making progress or getting the rewards, he or she is probably running a vow of perfectionism.

The perfectionism can also be a “front” for the fear of failure.  If you secretly fear that you aren’t good enough then you won’t risk putting your energy behind your offers, your marketing, etc.   Someone may even look capable and confident from the outside but because of their hidden fear of exposure, they don’t go all out, or they don’t try for the bigger clients and recognition.

This is closely related to a recognized syndrome called the Impostor Syndrome in psychology—where successful accomplished professionals and  experts, such as doctors and attorneys,  have been shown to have a huge fear of being revealed as not knowing their stuff, or inadequate in a major way.

What  are the gifts here?  Once we shine a light on the perfectionism, and all the ways that this lifelong vow has led us to be excellent, we can actually acknowledge how skilled and excellent we are, right now!  We acknowledge that there will always be room for improvement,  yet we can feel good enough right now, and deserving.   Once we see that we are giving our energy to an unattainable goal, we can adjust our standards so that we can strive to be  both “Awesome and human too” instead of perfect.

If this speaks to you, I’ve got some specific processes from Tapping into Wealth that  can help with this. Clearing this vow can make a HUGE difference in your success.  Come experience a private session (contact me for a Clarity Strategy Action session) or join us for the next Retrain Your Brain 30 day Challenge.

We set ourselves free, finally, when we realize that there is no one out there who can give us that ultimate stamp of approval.  (This almost always comes from having critical and hard to please parents…who, if still alive,  will not likely give us approval even now—and if they did, it still wouldn’t resolve the child part of us that feels  “I’ll never be good enough” ) Now, as adults, we can see that this is not going to happen.  In fact, craving the approval of others, or needing praise and recognition, can keep you running on a different kind of hamster wheel.

This is not to overlook our very natural and human desire to be recognized, to be noticed and appreciated. Social psychology has shown that appreciation and gratitude is the best path to strong relationships, both at work and in the rest of life.

But what happens when you’re in your own business-where there are so many tasks to be done in a day, and where most of those tasks are invisible to others?  Waiting for others to notice and approve is going to be a long wait!

Because you really are good enough.  You deserve reward and recognition, right now—even if you still want to improve.  You ARE awesome..just the way you are!

Since you are human, and all us humans do  need that approval, how about practicing the very habit we cultivate in the 30 Day Retrain Your Brain Challenge? The habit of celebrating and acknowledging yourself.   Go ahead, do it now.  And notice how it feels to do this.  Does it feels awkward or unnatural, hard to do or to remember to do, is it unfamiliar or uncomfortable?  Now that you see how important this is to staying motivated and happy, and allowing yourself to really go for it–if you’d like to get better at this, join us for the next Retrain Your Brain 30 day Challenge that starts July 16th.

And learn to finally give yourself that stamp of approval!

SIGNUP BELOW AND RECEIVE MY AUDIO:
“Turn Your To-Do! List into a Ta-Da! List”
(Ta-Da! Is like the magician pulling the rabbit out of the hat!) .
See You On The Other Side

GROWING YOUR SELF-CONFIDENCE – 7 KEYS FOR  WOMEN IN BUSINESS

What is confidence?
One dictionary definition is: “a feeling or belief that you can do something well or succeed at something”.

Self-confidence seems like one of those things you either were born with or not.   That is mostly NOT true–great  news for all of us, and especially for women in any kind of business. Think of how confident you were when you took your very first step as a toddler: not very.   Yet, you stopped wobbling a long time ago. Now, do you assume you can walk or do you doubt each step?   No, you learned to be confident in your ability to walk.   You LEARNED by doing, by trying, wobbling, falling down and getting up again.

Lack of confidence makes us wobble in business and feel unsure of ourselves.   It also leads to the two P’s: Procrastination and Perfectionism.
“No, I can’t get that program out yet…I don’t have enough to offer.   I need more training, or better copy, or a prettier website.”   What’s your version of this? More importantly, when will you be ready, your offer good enough, your business polished enough?

Perfectionism rears its ugly head by insisting we need to get it right and ‘do the job’ ten times better than anyone else, just to feel adequate.     When your self-esteem depends on getting things right or being perfect, you will overwork—and probably undercharge as well.

Procrastination chimes in when it comes to taking a risk, like  putting your new program, product or marketing out there.   Lack of confidence makes you hesitate to take risks because “what if I’m wrong?”.   If, like most women, you were trained to be good, not make waves, and get the right answer in school–your self-esteem depends on getting things right, NOT on the number of chances you take!

The most successful entrepreneurs have confidence—not necessarily in their particular abilities, though of course that’s helpful—but in their ability to take risks and recover from challenges and set backs.   They are resilient and adaptable.   This is actually quite different from the kind of cocky self-esteem or bravado that we might associate with self-confidence.   I’ll tell you more about that later as it’s one of the 7 Keys to Self-Confidence in this current series of
blog posts.

Contrast that kind of hesitancy with how men are taught and raised….I still remember one of my coaches, Michael Port, saying “Ready,fire, aim!”.   I almost laughed because that was SO far from the way I and many women, operate.     Even the language was strange to me–shooting my clients is the last thing I ever want to do.   I realized Michael didn’t’ mean that literally, he was simply using the common language of business which was developed by men and is still the dominant mindset in the business world.   That aggressive, hunt-em-down language is a huge turn-off for me, and the women and men I serve, and in that moment I promised myself I’d  find and use new heart-based metaphors and language for business.

The main point he was making, which most women need to take to heart more, was “don’t wait to be perfect, get it out there, and then tweak it later. Get into action..!”

Where is your lack of confidence, perfectionism or procrastination holding YOU back from  promoting your business or taking inspired action?

Humility—Could It be a Key to Your Prosperity?

The dominant model of success—which is fortunately beginning to shift in the age of the conscious entrepreneur – is about getting attention, standing out, and dominating in the marketplace.     It says we will succeed only by tooting our own horn and the louder the better!     What could be less humble than that?

On the other hand, the root of the word  humility is  â€humble.”   In its traditional meaning, which we associate with Christianity and other religious teachings, being humble implies modesty and being unassuming, or even the  kind of self-debasement where we make ourselves less than others.   How on earth could a quality like that be part of creating abundance and prosperity for yourself?

I propose a fresh look at humility to see how this quality actually supports our prosperity and well being, from the perspective of yoga teachings and the Sufi tradition.

On the yoga path, a key teaching is “You are not the doer”.   That means that while you may act and serve in various ways, you are a conduit through which Source energy is flowing and expressing itself.   You are not the ultimate cause of what happens, yet you are also responsible for your part in things.   Your  results come from a blend of self effort and grace.

With humility we can   take credit for our achievements and our failures too, while staying   aware that we are also actors on the cosmic stage of life, playing a part in larger trends and   in our individual and collective destinies.   So we can relax and surrender to the fact that  we aren’t completely in charge.   From there we can see that everything is  part of an interconnected web that takes into account  the greatest good for all souls–not just our personal needs and desires.

In the Sufi way, humility is actually a quality of the Divine, and it has to do with accepting a larger, unknowable destiny or grand scheme of life.   When someone has a great shift after you work with them, you may stand in awe and amazement, you may even feel humbled by the wisdom and resilience within the client, or by the power of the work itself—but you don’t take all the credit.   In the same way if you say something to a client that you realize later wasn’t so skillful, or that you haven’t been doing well with your marketing, that this is part of our journey and our learning, these seeming failures or disappointments, and we can correct our course at any time.

As a business owner, humility might mean looking closely at what is and isn’t working, and perhaps acknowledging where there are knowledge gaps about marketing or accounting, or even in your skills a as a practitioner.   Humility helps us see when it’s time to get help from a mentor, coach, friend or healer, learning program or an office assistant. It helps us to be compassionate when things take longer than we expect them to, and to accept that we are imperfect and don’t always know what to do.   We can step back from time to time and ask “is it time to change course here, or what else is needed.

In terms of money and prosperity, humility can help us to be at peace with what is.   We learn to accept what our current situation is and flow with it, even though we may prefer and work towards more prosperity.   Humility here helps us to acknowledge when there appears to be a defeat or setback, that there is a bigger picture, even if we can’t see what it is in the moment, and also to ask for help to change what we can change, and accept and live with what can’t be changed—the serenity prayer.

So for your peace of mind AND prosperity, try a little dose of humility.   You might be surprised!